Bad times are like bad dreams!

Imagine a morning with fresh start after a sound sleep though you had a bad dream for few minutes .Life is a combination of good and bad where neither good times stays forever nor bad time tortured you through our life.

Bad time gives you lesson where as good times give you memory both are equally important for life.life flows like a river where mountains and planes both exists ..

It’s important to keep calm,deal bad times tactfully and wait for good times as well as pray to God to give strength.Lot of people looses calm and take around g decisions at their bad times where’s as there are people who take wrong decisions at their good times too.Money usually makes people arrogant and proudy they often forget they have passed from bad times what may come in future so they should be equally polite ,calm and plan for future instead of loosing self control,dealing badly with others .Beacuse it’s only people around you who will become your strength at your bad times and if you will disrespect / ignore them at your good time why they will stand beside you.

So enjoy good after planning for bad and be strong and hope for good when you are in bad faces of life .After all sunshine and rainfall both are equally important to live ..

Let’s think twice and react ..

Though this incident was not sudden and unexpected I was bit shocked why it took bit of time to happen ..Every place comes with mixture of good,bad people .There are people who always appreciate,motivate where as there are few who always criticise but there are few who do none of them and are always unhappy and keeps on spreading negativity about a person or about behaviour ..
Mr.Bill Gates said something like his source of input for improvement are the unhappy customers.I believe he must have said this because these are the people who always points on the faulty segments / places where you have to improve..People who always appreciate you are your strength you should always love ,respect them.but to me the most harmful are the people who spread negetivity points you out with blame because of nothing or may be their own personal jealousy.I am sharing a recent incident happened to my dear friend few days back.

He used to work in a place and was planning to leave it because he was hardly satisfied working there ,was not getting any exposure .He was a workaholic and a good decision maker but there were hardly some work at that place which was exciting him.He was gradually loosing interest working there though he was perfectly doing his everyday duty.Arguements started taking place every now and then because he liked to utilize his own decision making skills..Going office became like visiting jail to him .He informed his dissatisfaction to the authority and finally a day has come when both have concluded discontinuity of work tenure ..He was relaxed and started feeling fresh .Luckily his colleagues were very friendly and cooperative .He had done all his duty very professionally till last date of work appointment..After he left some rumours were spread that his performance was not upto the mark and his behaviour was not proper so the organisation has decided to throw him away.People who were close to him called him up and were surprised to know this and said everybody is aware of the true fact then how come this kind of statements are in the air..He felt sad and talked to me ..

I smiled and consoled saying which one is more important .Your freedom / rumours .Hoe does it matter who is saying what when you have your all formal papers .Trust me people forgets things too easily .So don’t be demotivated .You are confident ,skilled then how does that matter what 20/25 people are taking about you .Most importantly your colleague liked,respected your work nature so they must be knowing the real fact so your should not be worried about but yes there are few people who can’t judge / make their decision they just go with flow ..Does it really matter what they are thinking .The place the suffocating you ,you wanted to have a better place with better work.so sky is yours,you can fly now.Dont worry about this minor stuffs .100 trivial things like this will come your way.Simply ignore .Don’t react beacuse people will catch your reaction and colorize it their way.He smiled with peace thanked me numerous times.Suddenly I felt happy thinking that I can really make somebody feel better seems like something is there in me naturally as a God’s gift.

Friends let me know if there are anything I can help you with.I will surely do..Life is all about sharing happiness and diluting sadness .Keep smiling

Back to my corner !

Life is a mixture of good / bad,best / worst ,happiness / sadness .Who knows it better than me! I was truly missing my mom,my sister and everything related to my childhood but some how when I saw my husband is eagerly waiting to receive me in station all my sadness,sorrow vanished away.May be this is called life ,a circle about new things ,new bonding ,new attachment what gives you strength to move on.

Slowly and gradually I got involved into all the homely things ,everyday’s cooking ,cleaning etc and I deeply realised one thing that I have to play multiple roles for multiple relationships ..I must find some time for myself to pamper me,to take some rest,to get deep rooted to organise myself and things around me and plan further ..Else I will never be able to keep my other responsibilities .I decided to take a break.Break from my extremely busy career to reorganize my own self,to decide the priority and do the rest ..

Mom I want to stay with you forever!

I am screaming from inside but wearing a smile outside ..Time has come to go back to my in laws place leaving my childhood place,gardens,old book shelves,sadness point crafted by me …

My mind is shouting from inside why I have grown up why not my only relationship is with my parents and sister.Why I have another home why I have other responsibility ?Why can’t I have a time machine to go back to my childhood and destroy the machine and throw excuses like I can’t go back to present time ? I know it sounds odd and selfish but these home,corners,gardens,roof top secret places,books,notes,shelves,dolls,handcrafted stuffs are very much engraved in me and attracts me reminds me of childhood .These place is strong enough to clear stress,bad feelings,sadness,emptyness,arguements and all suppressed pains and incomplete discussions/ questions / arguements .

I have nothing to decide because I have go go back but some how my soul will be here ,in this home,with my parents,with my old book shelves,,covered in this lovely curtains ,walking in the beautiful garden..

Returning back to the real world after 2 days !

Some one has said that good time passes very fast and bad times takes ages to go even in a single day.

Only 2 days are left .After that I have to leave my parents alone and go to my in law’s place again.Life is a cycle .It has to move on from good/bad times..Life repeats itself as a child ,adult,young ,old ..

Good memories are treasured and gives me strength to face hard times .But good memories are valuable and priceless because of bad incidents.I wish I could be always a kid and holding hand of my young parents .But time has decided to make me young and my parents old.I have to keepy parents happy ,fulfill their wishes.Sone times their demands sounds like tantrums of a kid and reminds me a statement like old age is second childhood 😀 .But still some where in core of my heart my mind is still like a kid and enjoys my days of childhood can see myself in my parents …& Life goes on..Becomes a checklist of desires ,duties and responsibilities ..

Prawn curry in coconut milk

Today’s lunch was trully mind-blowing and reminded my best memories of childhood.Out of all the one my mind loves the most is coconut curry .

It just takes coconut kernels ,fresh cream,tiger prawns,salt,Termeric,sugar,white mustard a bit

Take oil in a pan > fry prawns > add salt> Termeric > pinch of sugar > add mixture of coconut kernel paste mixed with white mustard paste > let it be for few minutes to fry all together and get gel with each other and boil as well.A nice smell will indicate completion of the dish.Takw time and keep all it in a very low flame ..

Time to enjoy

7 days of happiness and being a kid!

I don’t want this days to go ever because these are going to be the most beautiful days soon 🙂

Often our bad times takes time to pass but good times pass soon.so,I don’t want this to go fast.My favourite foods ,cosy afternoons ,lazy mornings reminds my childhood .I don’t want to grow,I want to b a kid for ever .I want to know how the outer world is ,wish my home to be my world.want to be surrounded with my family members only who loves me without cause,always protects me.We grow young ,old and gradually loose lot of good things ..Why set goals / objective but we often forget that that is something to make a better life but that is not the only thing in life .We forget small things which used to made us happy at our childhood days ..

So respect realarionships ,don’t let small things fade away with times ..Be a kid from heart .Trust me there is a kid in every one. 🙂

Special cupcakes by most beautiful sister in earth !

I was more than surprised to see her made this for me.She is the one whom I had seen after birth in the baby busket.My cute love

And my mother special mutton mince curry..No I won’t share the receipy with any body as it’s a secret one mixed with my mother’s special love for me.Jokes.. 😀

Gossiping entire night with my sister,reading spicy messages ,enjoying tasty food,home made cakes,cookies ,watching TV series together,getting hair combing done by granny are the true things makes me smile..

Festival of color is going on.We have already purchased weird Colors like yellow, green,pink to transform man to ghost .Tasty sweets are being made and purchased.My cousins are on the way to home.Our tenant who are actually more than our relatives are preparing to enjoy with us.Mother is busy making lot of items for lunch.I don’t need any social media to be surrounded with all my loved ones.Every body whom I love are here.. but out of all I trully miss my loving husband 😦 .I know I m always connected to my man by hearts .I miss you love.Please accept my first touch of handful colors :*

Happiness ,Peace … 🙂 Far away from everyday’s grinding and a super hectic schedule .I feel extremely relaxed,calm and composed .Yes kind of getting inner peace 🙂

Anyways a very happy holi to all my loved ones,all the people who spends few minutes and pay attention while reading what I pen here .

It’s time to play holi like crazy .But be safe ..

And offcouse I will share the receipy in my next post

Childhood is back!

Only 7 (working day) is left to go home ..Well Saturday / Sunday or holidays are always excluded because those are the day I can have ” my time” in home ,cooking for the man of the house ..

Remember those days when we used to make list of home made foods to eat in week ends.I have just made a list of stuffs to do with my sister who’s actually the best sister in the world.A special list containing foods exclusively made by my mother ..These days are going to be the most precious days of my life reminding me days of my childhood ,that old home,delicious foods ,sister love..

Counting days every day …Decreasing 1….

Learning from everyone ..

We often think that we have grown and we are more or less aware of almost all the things needed to live a good live everyday ..We close our mind and take lessons from only those who are seniors to us either in terms of age or in terms of social respects and money ..But we often forget there are mistakes we keep on doing everyday and our closed mind hardly welcome any suggestions / criticism

We can learn even from a child,from the person who comes our home everyday for cleaning / washing clothes.Better we change looking out at things .Let every person be a source of knowledge and learn good things from all ..Don’t ever judge any one by his/ her social position ,bank balance,age..

Trust me you will get to learn good things every day..

I am learning ..Growing everyday…