Durga-Puja

Festive time is over !

Durga Puja is the most awaited celebration for all Bengalis .Though the after effect still follows till Laxmi puja and diwali but the major tide slows down by Dashami or Dasshera .

It’s not only doing pandal hopping ,watching idols and mixing with crowd it’s staying with family spending quality time in leisure ,having home made food .At the end it leaves an wait of few hundred days for the next year .

 

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“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” – Buddha

How long an average person live in his life span ? 60/70/80 that is too depending on healthy life style and unpolluted environment .

Andhow long are they remembered?

Is there something after death ?

How some one can live and be loved even after death ?

There are endless similar questions used to come to my mind and made me search the answer .I started digging out in principle of Buddhism and found out the answer

Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely

People are immortal and remembered for long only when they leave a mark by their work ,action ,words ,behaviour etc .Some one does not have to be a monk and leave everything and spread his wisdom to be immortal.

A person can serve others like Mother Teresa.

Invent,exercise science and enrich knowledge for future generations like Neewton, Einstein, Galileo, Drawin, Archimedes ..

Practice technology like Bill Gates,Steve jobs

There are 100 other ways to practice good execises for own self ,for all surrounding them ,for every one in the globe .Choose the one which is best for your soul and keep moving .Rest will be taken care by others who are getting your help directly and indirectly .Good souls are always appreciated and remembered .

On the other way around your action can’t make every one happy because every body does not have same intension and objective as well as mind set in the world .Truth and goodness are relative .Your good can be some ones bad and vice versa .So,ask yourself and make sure you are doing good for mass and leave people who are not pleased for their own selfish reasons .Go on .Do Good .Be Good

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lets go towards perfection

Tricks Of Staying Calm

Being happy Or getting happiness is a process or you may call it a result of your karma / reaction of the actions you are mailing .It’s not some thing like a magic which can appear in no time .There are people who often believe buying a Versace handbag or a pair of shoes from Dolce and Gabbana can bring smile / make them happy .Is that real happiness ? Or that is just an illusion of being happy .The answer is quite simple

Think of

a.A pair of Lee Cooper shoes bought by you from your salary / bonus or think of a Gucci handbags gifted by your beloved brother in your birthday

b.Think of a Mikel Kors handbag bought just because you liked it ,wanted to get it to show case that “See ,I have a bag from Mikel Kors”

Now ,which one triggers you more ,which you hits your emotion ,which you make you feel beloved ,which you make you feel more peace to get .

I have choosen peace over  happines and the day I made this decision I never had to look back.All relations of mine become more stronger ,I can say NO to fake faces,I can distract my mind from hollow glittery stuffs and get me calm everyday .

Often people looses calmness and control over themselves and behaves in a wrong way .As I blindly believe Buddhism as principle as well as practices for making myself a good human rather than anything I found the answer in it .Why to excite and loose calm for some thing what is said / behaved by some one else .If you are not reacting on anger / misbehaviour of some one that means  you are certainly not accepting that .And what happens when you don’t accept a gift of some one ? That goes / belongs to the person who bought it for you .I personally have avoided and solved lot of problems following this and I am sure you all will be able to do that.

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Be healthy,be happy 😊

 

Being crafty is the new trend !😍

Hi All,Hola!!!

This post really took a lot of time to publish .Life is taking different tracks quite often and I am just trying to avoid derailing .I have strated councelling people,friends  around me who are seeking help this was always a passion of mine but I had never thought of doing it gradually .But there is some thing else what I never knew o was some how suppressed by me concious mind was “being crafty”

I become crazy while I see glass jars ,my mind always keeps on thinking making them beautiful,nice ,cute and crazy

Glass jar
Diy-glass-jars
Mr. & Mrs. Glass jars
Mr. & Mrs. Glass jars

 

This are the recent pieces made by me .It’s pretty easy to guess that these are abundant glass bottles of pickle ,sause and honey .This cute stuffs are nothing but attempts of making a flat more homely and touchy .

Though I have no experience is glass painting but I don’t think it will be a trouble experimenting with the new one too.I will surely share when I will make some thing new .

Even imprints of leaves ,moon / sun in the glass walls also attracts me .Decorating tiny bulbs with in jar ar also in my to do list of upcoming days .

Let’s see what comes out .Wish me luck.😆😊

 

Great-start

Back from the best holiday of this year !

Time spent with parents remind childhood the best .My sister is a topping there ..7 days passed with them make me feel the taste of peace through out.Home made cooking ,new dishes ,endless gossip ,sky watching sitting in roof with my sister cum best friend is like spending best part of life .Every time I meet them I just repent why I am growing old ,I want my childhood back .They act as an time machine.They have a magical power of making me 10 years younger ,making me a innocent girl ,they work hard so that I can rest ,they are the people who actually make me feel alive ..

When they go back they fill my mind with so much positivity ,power ,strength ,joy and  silent sadness ,an attempt of hiding sorrow,red corners somewhere in eyes ,drop of tears..

But we do come back to our regular world and becom the best robot out of us who keeps on playing ..

positive

Bad times are like bad dreams!

Imagine a morning with fresh start after a sound sleep though you had a bad dream for few minutes .Life is a combination of good and bad where neither good times stays forever nor bad time tortured you through our life.

Bad time gives you lesson where as good times give you memory both are equally important for life.life flows like a river where mountains and planes both exists ..

It’s important to keep calm,deal bad times tactfully and wait for good times as well as pray to God to give strength.Lot of people looses calm and take around g decisions at their bad times where’s as there are people who take wrong decisions at their good times too.Money usually makes people arrogant and proudy they often forget they have passed from bad times what may come in future so they should be equally polite ,calm and plan for future instead of loosing self control,dealing badly with others .Beacuse it’s only people around you who will become your strength at your bad times and if you will disrespect / ignore them at your good time why they will stand beside you.

So enjoy good after planning for bad and be strong and hope for good when you are in bad faces of life .After all sunshine and rainfall both are equally important to live ..

lets go towards perfection

Let’s think twice and react ..

Though this incident was not sudden and unexpected I was bit shocked why it took bit of time to happen ..Every place comes with mixture of good,bad people .There are people who always appreciate,motivate where as there are few who always criticise but there are few who do none of them and are always unhappy and keeps on spreading negativity about a person or about behaviour ..
Mr.Bill Gates said something like his source of input for improvement are the unhappy customers.I believe he must have said this because these are the people who always points on the faulty segments / places where you have to improve..People who always appreciate you are your strength you should always love ,respect them.but to me the most harmful are the people who spread negetivity points you out with blame because of nothing or may be their own personal jealousy.I am sharing a recent incident happened to my dear friend few days back.

He used to work in a place and was planning to leave it because he was hardly satisfied working there ,was not getting any exposure .He was a workaholic and a good decision maker but there were hardly some work at that place which was exciting him.He was gradually loosing interest working there though he was perfectly doing his everyday duty.Arguements started taking place every now and then because he liked to utilize his own decision making skills..Going office became like visiting jail to him .He informed his dissatisfaction to the authority and finally a day has come when both have concluded discontinuity of work tenure ..He was relaxed and started feeling fresh .Luckily his colleagues were very friendly and cooperative .He had done all his duty very professionally till last date of work appointment..After he left some rumours were spread that his performance was not upto the mark and his behaviour was not proper so the organisation has decided to throw him away.People who were close to him called him up and were surprised to know this and said everybody is aware of the true fact then how come this kind of statements are in the air..He felt sad and talked to me ..

I smiled and consoled saying which one is more important .Your freedom / rumours .Hoe does it matter who is saying what when you have your all formal papers .Trust me people forgets things too easily .So don’t be demotivated .You are confident ,skilled then how does that matter what 20/25 people are taking about you .Most importantly your colleague liked,respected your work nature so they must be knowing the real fact so your should not be worried about but yes there are few people who can’t judge / make their decision they just go with flow ..Does it really matter what they are thinking .The place the suffocating you ,you wanted to have a better place with better work.so sky is yours,you can fly now.Dont worry about this minor stuffs .100 trivial things like this will come your way.Simply ignore .Don’t react beacuse people will catch your reaction and colorize it their way.He smiled with peace thanked me numerous times.Suddenly I felt happy thinking that I can really make somebody feel better seems like something is there in me naturally as a God’s gift.

Friends let me know if there are anything I can help you with.I will surely do..Life is all about sharing happiness and diluting sadness .Keep smiling

Budda-An idol of peace

Back to my corner !

Life is a mixture of good / bad,best / worst ,happiness / sadness .Who knows it better than me! I was truly missing my mom,my sister and everything related to my childhood but some how when I saw my husband is eagerly waiting to receive me in station all my sadness,sorrow vanished away.May be this is called life ,a circle about new things ,new bonding ,new attachment what gives you strength to move on.

Slowly and gradually I got involved into all the homely things ,everyday’s cooking ,cleaning etc and I deeply realised one thing that I have to play multiple roles for multiple relationships ..I must find some time for myself to pamper me,to take some rest,to get deep rooted to organise myself and things around me and plan further ..Else I will never be able to keep my other responsibilities .I decided to take a break.Break from my extremely busy career to reorganize my own self,to decide the priority and do the rest ..

Mom I want to stay with you forever!

I am screaming from inside but wearing a smile outside ..Time has come to go back to my in laws place leaving my childhood place,gardens,old book shelves,sadness point crafted by me …

My mind is shouting from inside why I have grown up why not my only relationship is with my parents and sister.Why I have another home why I have other responsibility ?Why can’t I have a time machine to go back to my childhood and destroy the machine and throw excuses like I can’t go back to present time ? I know it sounds odd and selfish but these home,corners,gardens,roof top secret places,books,notes,shelves,dolls,handcrafted stuffs are very much engraved in me and attracts me reminds me of childhood .These place is strong enough to clear stress,bad feelings,sadness,emptyness,arguements and all suppressed pains and incomplete discussions/ questions / arguements .

I have nothing to decide because I have go go back but some how my soul will be here ,in this home,with my parents,with my old book shelves,,covered in this lovely curtains ,walking in the beautiful garden..