“Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” – Buddha

How long an average person live in his life span ? 60/70/80 that is too depending on healthy life style and unpolluted environment .

Andhow long are they remembered?

Is there something after death ?

How some one can live and be loved even after death ?

There are endless similar questions used to come to my mind and made me search the answer .I started digging out in principle of Buddhism and found out the answer

Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely

People are immortal and remembered for long only when they leave a mark by their work ,action ,words ,behaviour etc .Some one does not have to be a monk and leave everything and spread his wisdom to be immortal.

A person can serve others like Mother Teresa.

Invent,exercise science and enrich knowledge for future generations like Neewton, Einstein, Galileo, Drawin, Archimedes ..

Practice technology like Bill Gates,Steve jobs

There are 100 other ways to practice good execises for own self ,for all surrounding them ,for every one in the globe .Choose the one which is best for your soul and keep moving .Rest will be taken care by others who are getting your help directly and indirectly .Good souls are always appreciated and remembered .

On the other way around your action can’t make every one happy because every body does not have same intension and objective as well as mind set in the world .Truth and goodness are relative .Your good can be some ones bad and vice versa .So,ask yourself and make sure you are doing good for mass and leave people who are not pleased for their own selfish reasons .Go on .Do Good .Be Good

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Tricks Of Staying Calm

Being happy Or getting happiness is a process or you may call it a result of your karma / reaction of the actions you are mailing .It’s not some thing like a magic which can appear in no time .There are people who often believe buying a Versace handbag or a pair of shoes from Dolce and Gabbana can bring smile / make them happy .Is that real happiness ? Or that is just an illusion of being happy .The answer is quite simple

Think of

a.A pair of Lee Cooper shoes bought by you from your salary / bonus or think of a Gucci handbags gifted by your beloved brother in your birthday

b.Think of a Mikel Kors handbag bought just because you liked it ,wanted to get it to show case that “See ,I have a bag from Mikel Kors”

Now ,which one triggers you more ,which you hits your emotion ,which you make you feel beloved ,which you make you feel more peace to get .

I have choosen peace over  happines and the day I made this decision I never had to look back.All relations of mine become more stronger ,I can say NO to fake faces,I can distract my mind from hollow glittery stuffs and get me calm everyday .

Often people looses calmness and control over themselves and behaves in a wrong way .As I blindly believe Buddhism as principle as well as practices for making myself a good human rather than anything I found the answer in it .Why to excite and loose calm for some thing what is said / behaved by some one else .If you are not reacting on anger / misbehaviour of some one that means  you are certainly not accepting that .And what happens when you don’t accept a gift of some one ? That goes / belongs to the person who bought it for you .I personally have avoided and solved lot of problems following this and I am sure you all will be able to do that.

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Be healthy,be happy 😊

 

Being crafty is the new trend !😍

Hi All,Hola!!!

This post really took a lot of time to publish .Life is taking different tracks quite often and I am just trying to avoid derailing .I have strated councelling people,friends  around me who are seeking help this was always a passion of mine but I had never thought of doing it gradually .But there is some thing else what I never knew o was some how suppressed by me concious mind was “being crafty”

I become crazy while I see glass jars ,my mind always keeps on thinking making them beautiful,nice ,cute and crazy

Glass jar
Diy-glass-jars
Mr. & Mrs. Glass jars
Mr. & Mrs. Glass jars

 

This are the recent pieces made by me .It’s pretty easy to guess that these are abundant glass bottles of pickle ,sause and honey .This cute stuffs are nothing but attempts of making a flat more homely and touchy .

Though I have no experience is glass painting but I don’t think it will be a trouble experimenting with the new one too.I will surely share when I will make some thing new .

Even imprints of leaves ,moon / sun in the glass walls also attracts me .Decorating tiny bulbs with in jar ar also in my to do list of upcoming days .

Let’s see what comes out .Wish me luck.😆😊

 

Sunderban! Truly a ‘Sunder’ ‘Ban’

In local language Sunderban means Sunder = beautiful ban = jungle .Poetically an artist may imagine it as a beautiful lady and the name is worth.This trip has corrected lot of misconception of mine .I was ashamed of being unaware of so many things for which I should be actually proud of.My state has so many things ,lot of diversification ,nature’s creation ..

You will be shocked to know that sunderban contains
total geographical area of 2585 km2 with 1437.4 km2 consisting of populated areas and forest covering 1474 km2 .The present Sundarban National Park was declared as the core area of Sundarban Tiger Reserve in 1973 and a wildlife sanctuary in 1977.Indian side of Sundarbans measuring around 4000 sq. kms consists of 102 islands just 16 short of the number of islands in the city of Venice. Out of 102 islands of Indian sundarbans, 54 are inhabitated and 48 are forested. Still Indian Sundarban is around 10 times bigger than the city of Venice.
This is declared as UNESCO World Heritage site inscribed in 1987.
http://whc.unesco.org/en/list/798

Map-of-Sunderban
Map of Sunderban

This place owns unique variation of bio diversity including flora and fauna .People normally come here to expect to see Royal Bengal tiger ,crocodile along with deer ,monkey ,snake ,monitor lizards but there are hardly few who looks at the dense forest which has its own beauty ,mangrove forest with trees like sundari,gerua,dhundhol,Goran,golpata,keora.

Sunderban
Forest and water around !

There are mangroves which are viviparous i.e the seed gives birth to the new plant being connected to the parent tree when it has roots which can catch hold of the soil and connect to it immediately after seperation from the parent tree.This is a type of evolution they have achieved to exist in a land with soil water where 6 hours a day the land faces high tide and rest 6 hours it faces low tide.Just think ! How they have evoluted .Even human babies forms in a mother womb like this and takes birth from her mother’s body..
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viviparity

Mangroves-in-sunderban
Mangroves in sunderban

Roots of sundari have a different respiration proces.As they hardly get oxygen from salt water .They have evoluted and made there roots hard and spiky and moved to opposite direction outward water / soil i.e towards sky and there are pores to breath.Can you imagine ?Nature is tuly a magician…

As far as wildlife is concern this is home to Royal Bengal Tiger ,saltwater crocodile,spotted deer,gangetic dolphin ,pacific shark ,monkey,monitor lizard.As per the last count only 103 Royal Bengal tigers are left so chances of spotting tigers are truly rare and can be seen only if you are truly lucky because maximum boats will ride you through the main river .They come near to main river only at very early morning or at the time of sunset to drink water / swim to cross river ..It’s their own territory and I was shocked and surprised how tourists even expect to see a tiger while boats are passing through the main river .Just think about probability of spotting a single tiger out of 103 in a wide region like 2585 km2 unless some body is lucky like a lottery buyer who becomes 1st prize owner whenever he buys one 🙂

There are watch towers where from people can see far into jungles .Sweet water ponds are made to attract wild animals to drink water ..We had visited 2 watch towers like Dobanki and Sudhanyakhali .Entire waterbody and forest comes under Sunderban National Park .I was wondering how tough it will be for official of forest department to manage this locations ,fencing out,counting ,treating ,even tracking the routes when there is water everywhere and all places look same ..

We spent an entire day in waterboat and visited the water routes .I can remember the sign boards writing ‘Pirkhali1′ ,’Pirkhali2′,’Bonbibir Bharani’ etc.The place has erased all my memories where from I came to visit this place .We have got very nice co-passenger a family was there where a boy was very couragous  and telling his family that he would like to have tiger chowmein instead of chicken chowmein and every body was laughing at .A geographer was with us from Germany who was noting down everything in a journal and clicking images ,must be making his papers based on bio diversification / nature of river 🙂

Sunderban-Mud-Cottage

We stayed in mud cottage ,enjoyed some local programme,folk music.We spent night in a island called ‘Sukumari’ .We enjoyed food made by local people .They are very homely and courteous and welcomed us as tourism is one of the important business here.Its truly tough to survive and pass daily life there .We have provision of putting AC on whenever temperature goes beyond 30 but these people work in scorching heat,gets only soiled water to drink and do everything .Their occupations are fishing,collecting honey ,getting crabs .Every one takes high risk everyday as they have to enter dense forest to do all.Outsiders are just worried about tiger but there are lot of venomous snakes,amphibians,reptiles ,crocodiles .I have seen lots of places where red clothes are tied with tree stems marking there are danger inside so that others enter with safety measures only .But only blessing they get is the natural beauty .You will forget everything when you will sit in the bank of river or in the boat and check out water ,how its flowing silently how its effected in low tide / high tide.

Sunderban
Sunderban in low tide

This trip made me calm ,composed had given me a glimpse of power possessed by nature / God.It made me patient ,adjusting ,sacrificing by thinking how people are surviving everyday taking part in a battle called ‘life’.It made me realised that our life is like a river which starts as a small from a big glacier / mountain like our protective parents ,go on ,creates memories as compared to places ,takes turn ,makes its own way ,some times crushes hard stones / flows with it,forms / destroys relation the rivers forms and destroys new islands and ultimately gets into infinite occean the way our spirit gets merged into the infinite power pool after death..

Life-moves-like-a-river
Life moves like a river
Watching-high-tide-in-Sunderban
Watching high tide in Sunderban
Trees-submerged-in-water
Trees submerged in water
Sunset-in-sunderban
About to sunset
Saltwater-in-Sunderban
Saltwater in Sunderban
Sunderban-boats
Boats are getting ready
Sunderban-land
Land is dry and drought inside villages even cultivation is tough in salt water
Sunderban-boat-ride
Boat ride in an pin-drop silent evening
Sunderban-sunset
Photography Of a Photographer

 

 

sunderban-crocodile

Planning a trip to sunderban..

Salty water ,fear of tiger ,crocodile ,scorching heat ,what more some one wants to spice up life in this extreme hot and humid whether

We are planning a trip to sunderban full of nature ,water ,sea,mangrove and water life .

We are going with a tour packaging group .They will organise including fooding,accomodation etc.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundarbans

All my friends who are not aware of the place can get details from the link I have given above so ,I wont be repeating that it’s a UNESCO world Heritage ,it has a national park with tiger rehabilitation centre etc

I was going through personal blogs so that I can have few tips,gather some information about other’s person experience .Most of the people are saying there is hardly chance of seeing tiger ..Still I am hopeful ..Atleast I can hope to see monitor lizard ,gangetic dolphin,crocodile and lot of greener to heal my eyes ..Every one is writing about wearing soothing cotton as there will be scorching heat,shoe which covers entire feet because it’s most wet land and may have leech and snake ,other poisonous insects ..

Travelling is becoming an inseperable part in me because some where some time we should trash garbage of our mind and detox and come back to the concrete civilization

I will surely share my experience on I am back from there

positive

Bad times are like bad dreams!

Imagine a morning with fresh start after a sound sleep though you had a bad dream for few minutes .Life is a combination of good and bad where neither good times stays forever nor bad time tortured you through our life.

Bad time gives you lesson where as good times give you memory both are equally important for life.life flows like a river where mountains and planes both exists ..

It’s important to keep calm,deal bad times tactfully and wait for good times as well as pray to God to give strength.Lot of people looses calm and take around g decisions at their bad times where’s as there are people who take wrong decisions at their good times too.Money usually makes people arrogant and proudy they often forget they have passed from bad times what may come in future so they should be equally polite ,calm and plan for future instead of loosing self control,dealing badly with others .Beacuse it’s only people around you who will become your strength at your bad times and if you will disrespect / ignore them at your good time why they will stand beside you.

So enjoy good after planning for bad and be strong and hope for good when you are in bad faces of life .After all sunshine and rainfall both are equally important to live ..

lets go towards perfection

Let’s think twice and react ..

Though this incident was not sudden and unexpected I was bit shocked why it took bit of time to happen ..Every place comes with mixture of good,bad people .There are people who always appreciate,motivate where as there are few who always criticise but there are few who do none of them and are always unhappy and keeps on spreading negativity about a person or about behaviour ..
Mr.Bill Gates said something like his source of input for improvement are the unhappy customers.I believe he must have said this because these are the people who always points on the faulty segments / places where you have to improve..People who always appreciate you are your strength you should always love ,respect them.but to me the most harmful are the people who spread negetivity points you out with blame because of nothing or may be their own personal jealousy.I am sharing a recent incident happened to my dear friend few days back.

He used to work in a place and was planning to leave it because he was hardly satisfied working there ,was not getting any exposure .He was a workaholic and a good decision maker but there were hardly some work at that place which was exciting him.He was gradually loosing interest working there though he was perfectly doing his everyday duty.Arguements started taking place every now and then because he liked to utilize his own decision making skills..Going office became like visiting jail to him .He informed his dissatisfaction to the authority and finally a day has come when both have concluded discontinuity of work tenure ..He was relaxed and started feeling fresh .Luckily his colleagues were very friendly and cooperative .He had done all his duty very professionally till last date of work appointment..After he left some rumours were spread that his performance was not upto the mark and his behaviour was not proper so the organisation has decided to throw him away.People who were close to him called him up and were surprised to know this and said everybody is aware of the true fact then how come this kind of statements are in the air..He felt sad and talked to me ..

I smiled and consoled saying which one is more important .Your freedom / rumours .Hoe does it matter who is saying what when you have your all formal papers .Trust me people forgets things too easily .So don’t be demotivated .You are confident ,skilled then how does that matter what 20/25 people are taking about you .Most importantly your colleague liked,respected your work nature so they must be knowing the real fact so your should not be worried about but yes there are few people who can’t judge / make their decision they just go with flow ..Does it really matter what they are thinking .The place the suffocating you ,you wanted to have a better place with better work.so sky is yours,you can fly now.Dont worry about this minor stuffs .100 trivial things like this will come your way.Simply ignore .Don’t react beacuse people will catch your reaction and colorize it their way.He smiled with peace thanked me numerous times.Suddenly I felt happy thinking that I can really make somebody feel better seems like something is there in me naturally as a God’s gift.

Friends let me know if there are anything I can help you with.I will surely do..Life is all about sharing happiness and diluting sadness .Keep smiling

Budda-An idol of peace

Back to my corner !

Life is a mixture of good / bad,best / worst ,happiness / sadness .Who knows it better than me! I was truly missing my mom,my sister and everything related to my childhood but some how when I saw my husband is eagerly waiting to receive me in station all my sadness,sorrow vanished away.May be this is called life ,a circle about new things ,new bonding ,new attachment what gives you strength to move on.

Slowly and gradually I got involved into all the homely things ,everyday’s cooking ,cleaning etc and I deeply realised one thing that I have to play multiple roles for multiple relationships ..I must find some time for myself to pamper me,to take some rest,to get deep rooted to organise myself and things around me and plan further ..Else I will never be able to keep my other responsibilities .I decided to take a break.Break from my extremely busy career to reorganize my own self,to decide the priority and do the rest ..

Mom I want to stay with you forever!

I am screaming from inside but wearing a smile outside ..Time has come to go back to my in laws place leaving my childhood place,gardens,old book shelves,sadness point crafted by me …

My mind is shouting from inside why I have grown up why not my only relationship is with my parents and sister.Why I have another home why I have other responsibility ?Why can’t I have a time machine to go back to my childhood and destroy the machine and throw excuses like I can’t go back to present time ? I know it sounds odd and selfish but these home,corners,gardens,roof top secret places,books,notes,shelves,dolls,handcrafted stuffs are very much engraved in me and attracts me reminds me of childhood .These place is strong enough to clear stress,bad feelings,sadness,emptyness,arguements and all suppressed pains and incomplete discussions/ questions / arguements .

I have nothing to decide because I have go go back but some how my soul will be here ,in this home,with my parents,with my old book shelves,,covered in this lovely curtains ,walking in the beautiful garden..